Have you ever felt the sting of betrayal so deeply it shakes the foundation of your reality? This episode of Raising Rich takes you on a personal & emotional journey through betrayal, from the heart of a bustling industrial café to the confines of a relationship riddled with deceit.
Picture this: a bright morning turns dark when a locked café door leads to uncovering secrets that change everything. Jo shares her story of moving from a life of luxury funded by Mr. B to the hard work & satisfaction of café ownership, only for it to be turned upside down by an unexpected betrayal.
Learn how Jo navigated the emotional aftermath of these betrayals. From a facade maintained for her son’s birthday to the crushing discovery of a third phone, the complexities of a seven-year relationship unfold.
The episode wraps up with the poignant decision to leave, highlighted by the stark reality of having only $7.21 in her bank account. This powerful narrative resonates with anyone who's faced the challenge of rebuilding after betrayal, offering solidarity and strength to those in similar situations. Tune in to be moved by a story of resilience & transformation.
Follow our mother daughter journey towards financial freedom!
Have you ever felt the sting of betrayal so deeply it shakes the foundation of your reality? This episode of Raising Rich takes you on a personal & emotional journey through betrayal, from the heart of a bustling industrial café to the confines of a relationship riddled with deceit.
Picture this: a bright morning turns dark when a locked café door leads to uncovering secrets that change everything. Jo shares her story of moving from a life of luxury funded by Mr. B to the hard work & satisfaction of café ownership, only for it to be turned upside down by an unexpected betrayal.
Learn how Jo navigated the emotional aftermath of these betrayals. From a facade maintained for her son’s birthday to the crushing discovery of a third phone, the complexities of a seven-year relationship unfold.
The episode wraps up with the poignant decision to leave, highlighted by the stark reality of having only $7.21 in her bank account. This powerful narrative resonates with anyone who's faced the challenge of rebuilding after betrayal, offering solidarity and strength to those in similar situations. Tune in to be moved by a story of resilience & transformation.
Follow our mother daughter journey towards financial freedom!
Hey Mamas, welcome to the Raising Rich Podcast with your favourite mother-daughter duo, Jo and Lane. Join us as we take you on the rollercoaster ride that has been my mum's life with money.
Speaker 2:Yes, I'll be opening up about the taboo topic of money from bankruptcy to a six-figure income and all the heartache in between. So if you're a single mama out there trying to figure it all out, then this podcast is for you. Join us for all the ups and all the downs on Raising Rich.
Speaker 1:Hello, welcome, episode 12.
Speaker 2:Welcome to the couch, my couch, your couch, always my couch. It's not a baker's dozen, it's just number 12, it's an egg carton dozen. Uh, okay, so we left the last episode. I was a little bored. I had sold my lovely home, living in a cute little apartment in the city with my Mercedes, my Mr B paying for everything, me just doing two little part-time jobs. But yeah, I get bored, my brain ticks constantly and I'm looking for something more. Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I think that ties into that entrepreneurial spirit that we were talking about at the very start of this podcast, that you've always kind of had that drive to be a business owner. Be your own boss, bitch a CEO if you will.
Speaker 2:Yes, I I. I think I tried to be the stay at home woman taken care of which is, I mean that's probably hard. Like you think, Ooh, that's going to be cool.
Speaker 1:Well, I think when your children are a bit older you know you you don't have as much, I guess, responsibility in in that capacity of of looking after kids 24, 7 exactly but I was hoping you know that we would do a lot of travel because you know my kids are old enough and yeah, you guys didn't really travel that often no, there was, yeah, a real sticking point about getting passports and traveling and you know it was a real struggle, a real push and in the end, uh, friends actually talked him into all of us going away.
Speaker 1:That still actually never happened yeah, and on top of that, like you guys, never really even left the country like we didn't leave Victoria necessarily. I know we went to Port Douglas that one time.
Speaker 2:Once that doesn't require a passport.
Speaker 1:No no.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, I was kind of expecting I was loving this life of you know. Oh, I'm like a kept woman. Where's my travel? Yeah, but yeah, as I I said, I got a bit bored and I had the money that, uh, from the sale of the house just sitting in the bank and because we hadn't found a house not that we were actively looking yeah, I well I was yeah, you've got all this time in the day.
Speaker 2:now the leisurely scroll of realestatecom yeah, I was wanting to put my money somewhere so I actually decided, oh, I'm gonna buy a cafe. We had friends that owned a cafe. They were willing to help set it up and help look for the right cafe etc. So I spent quite a bit of time looking around, found one and bought. It was just an industrial cafe, a bit like the big butt yeah, we talked about beforehand and I'd had experience with the footy club and the other little part-time job was a little cafe that I was kind of running and so this was a big time cafe. This was huge. Um, it was very, very large. Not only did it have it's you know, you have a sandwich bar, it also had a pre-made sandwich section, obviously a dessert section. Then it had the coffee section, then the hot food for fried stuff and then a 12 sort of set food for meals for lunchtime and it was pretty full on. It was flat out.
Speaker 2:I bought that cafe and Mr B was fantastic at helping set it up. He had friends that did a lot of help with you know, just anything that I needed, like putting in the TV, putting in signage, even helping to come do the dishes sometimes because it was pretty busy. So he's really supportive, very supportive. He's helping me out, especially because I'm so tired. At the end of the day, it's a brand new shop and it's a brand new experience for me getting up at four in the morning. I'm obviously staying close to him. He lives close by to the shop. I'm staying at his place once during the week and, of course, on the weekends.
Speaker 2:We've still got that routine going. Don't overstep the routine because he's a very hard worker and I appreciate that. And things are going along fabulously. We are enjoying this great life. We've got some really close friends that we're enjoying. On top of that, I'm making good money in the shop. I feel like I don't feel like a single broke mum anymore. I'm making my own money. Mr Mr is still paying for everything, so I'm making this nice little nest egg for me. I'm able to afford things. I go on a couple of overseas trips myself and I'm having this amazing life. I'm no longer, as I said, this broke, single mum.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm working hard, making good money, some of it a little bit of cash you know, but you know, I feel like I've made it now yeah, I've made it, I've settled, I've got a great partner and everything's swimming along.
Speaker 1:It's hunky-dory.
Speaker 2:It seems like it is until one morning. Here we go, here we go, here we go. I rock up to my shop and my shop has a big fence around it and a gate with a padlock. It's 4am, the bottom of the padlock has fallen out somehow and I can't open the gate. Mr B lives around the corner corner. He's also got a factory around the corner. He's got lots of tools, lots of equipment I know I just need a pair of bolt cutters.
Speaker 2:Pair of bolt cutters cut off the, the padlock padlock open up shop. Bob's your uncle. So I ring him and there's no answer, which is a bit strange because he's always up at four o'clock in the morning. No answer. So I travel past and I and I think, oh, that's all right, when I get to his place I can just go inside. I've got a remote for the gate. I've got a remote for the garage door. I can just get inside. I'll wake him up if he's still asleep. Got a remote for the garage door. I can just get inside. I'll wake him up if he's still asleep. So I get there and I press the button and the gate opens. So that's all fine. I go to press the roller door button and it's not working and I thought, oh, that's a bit strange. It's as if it's been turned off you know when you turn off a roller door, you can't get in.
Speaker 2:So I reverse out and I drive around the corner and he rings me and says, oh, what's the problem? And I said, well, I can't get into the shop, I need some bolt cutters. And he's like yep, okay, no worries, I'll get them for you. Okay, terrific. So I've gone around the block and because he's rung me, I thought, oh well, I'll just pop back. Maybe he was asleep. So he comes out, he's reversing in his car and he sees me. So he pulls up next to me and I say, well, where are the bolt cutters? He goes, oh, they're at the factory. I'm just going there. Now. You go to the shop. You don't want to miss out on any customers. I'll meet you there. So I'm like okay, no worries, you know. So he drives off and I'm behind him and I see that the lights are still on in the house. Oh, now, the only reason I found this suspicious is because he was so pedantic about not leaving the lights on. Yeah, always do not leave the lights on. You know, it tells people that we're home, et cetera.
Speaker 2:Not about saving money on electricity. It's always, you know, people would know that we were home. So I found that a bit strange. So he drives off to his factory and I go around the block again and I drive in and my remote for the garage is still not working, but I've got a key to the front door.
Speaker 2:fair enough, I open the front door and lo and behold, there is a chick in her underwear making a cup of tea, like she fucking owns the house. Do you know what I mean? Like you know, if someone's shitting themselves cause they know they're not meant to be there, they're like hiding running away, maybe putting some pants on, definitely not making a car she obviously expected it to be him.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and you know like the worst thing is, I feel like such a fucking dick. But my uniform at my shop was bright blue shirt with an orange headband. So I've got a fucking orange headband on with cute little bow ribbons like bunny ears, and I want to spitball this chick and fucking karate chop her head. And I've got an orange headband with fucking bunny ears.
Speaker 1:Oh, you were definitely dressed for the part there. For the what Dressed for the part?
Speaker 2:What's that?
Speaker 1:character's name. I'm a panda, I was a rabbit, I had bunny ears, not a panda.
Speaker 2:oh god, we're trying to be serious here anyway at least I can laugh about it now but I remember, thinking back, I must have looked like a fucking right idiot. She's looked at me and gone. Well, I can take this chick on bring it on up away.
Speaker 1:Fucking right idiot. She's looked at me and gone. Well, I can take this chick on. Bring it on.
Speaker 2:Hop away. That's all folks know. So, anyway, I look at this chick and I say who the fuck are you? And she says my name's. Alright, my name's Kay. I'll just say miss Kay. And I said, well, I I'm Joe, I'm his fucking fiance. And she goes oh, I know who you are. And I said what the fuck are you doing here? And she said, well, maybe you should ask Mr B and I said, how about you get your fucking shit and get out of my kitchen? Because, like, I kind of felt like because I was spending, you know, three nights there now and he's spending four nights with me. We're sharing.
Speaker 2:Oh mate of course you are now and he's spending four nights with me. We're sharing like oh, mate, of course you are. Get the fuck out of my kitchen, like it's got all my cookware in there, yeah, and upstairs is my fucking bed. Yeah, my expensive bed that I saved my ass off for when I moved house.
Speaker 1:It didn't fit in my little apartment, so he fucking put it together in his so-called extra bedroom, yeah, and she's gone upstairs and collected a fucking bag from our bedroom, and the point of the point we want to make here is that there's two rooms in this house, shall we say factory, where, where mr b is living, the guest room is on the right hand side and the master, where mom was staying, is on the left hand side, and she collected her bag from the left hand side. Now, this is important for later.
Speaker 2:Everyone please keep that in mind so she collects her bag and, honestly, I actually did want to push her down the stairs and I know that sounds awful, but that's the things that go through your head.
Speaker 1:Like I really did, I wanted to push her down the stairs especially, I think, in a a moment in time where had she have been surprised to see you or had been like oh my god, I, I don't know who you are, I'm so sorry, yeah, might have played out very differently. Yeah, but to be in your kitchen and being like, well, I know who you are, babe, yeah okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and you might be thinking, well, is this all just a partner bashing kind of set a series? But the fact is it is so heavily related to money and you know I am trying to show that but essentially she's gone, right, she's. I've kicked her out, but I've got in my car behind her and I thought, you know what I'm going to, I'm going to follow her and work out where she lives. But the road rage in me was not going to work. So I was so upset and so furious at that time I went back to. I left that, obviously, and I went back to the factory where we were living, where he was living and he had.
Speaker 2:Um, when you walk in the front door, there's a study on the right hand side with a full camera operation set up for the whole place. Yeah, right, that had been turned off, okay. So that was interesting. That was the first interesting thing. The second interesting thing was the switch for the garage remote. You know how that wasn't working. Yeah, it was turned off. Yeah, so someone had purposely turned those two items off, absolutely right.
Speaker 1:And did you look at the camera footage and realize that it had been turned off until a certain point?
Speaker 2:at all. Yeah, yeah, because, um, that I went back a couple days later and I had a look and, um, yeah, it had been turned off earlier that evening at around 5 30 ish. Okay, yep, I've then left the place and I've gone to my shop because I obviously have to open up. I've got to start getting things prepared. You know I'm already behind by now. I'm an hour behind. I'm getting things organized and mr b walks in and I said to him don't you fucking take one step into my shop? And he goes oh, are we going to talk about it? And I said you can fucking sit on that chair outside and you can tell me who the fuck she is. Are you ready?
Speaker 1:for this. No, no, no, no, no, no. That's all I think about when people say are you ready? Are you ready for this?
Speaker 2:This is the most condescending thing that I think I could ever have been told. So on a wednesday evening we always had a ballroom dance lesson together, and it was like at seven o'clock, I think, something like that. So this is a thursday morning that it had happened and he had said to me the night before you don't need to come dancing tonight, I feel like you're so much a better dancer I kind of need the lesson on my own. So I'm going to go on my own.
Speaker 1:So I kind of accepted that.
Speaker 2:I was like, oh okay, whatever, you go on your own. You are right, I am a better dancer than you and, yes, you do need some extra lessons. That was the Wednesday night. He is sitting in front of me and says she was walking past last night at about five o'clock and she was crying and I asked her what was wrong. Because a woman randomly walks around a factory area. Yeah, an industrial complex he lives in an industrial area and he's built an apartment above his factory unit what's he doing?
Speaker 1:just like standing at the window waiting for some lonely woman to walk by. Okay, anyway, continue.
Speaker 2:Sorry, so she's walked by, she's crying, she's had a fight with her husband and he says I like I can't help you, but if you don't find anywhere to stay you can come back later tonight. You know, after nine, nine, 30,. He says to me because I know we had a dance lesson and we hadn't canceled at that time and I said and then what happened? Oh, she came back.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Right. She came back with her overnight bag and he's like well, yeah, she was in the guest room and I said hang on a minute. She gathered her overnight bag from our bedroom, our bedroom and his response was you know what? I'm such a good person. I always get caught out for things when I'm trying to help people out, and this is just another excuse. I can't believe you. Don't believe me All right.
Speaker 1:The Lord himself would not believe you, and he is the most forgiving man. Apparently, no one believes you. Okay, you okay, continue well so I'm left in shock.
Speaker 2:I'm left in shock. We are engaged. I'm thinking he's set all this aside, he's not like this anymore and he comes at me with that story. Yeah, like I, I actually I was mortified so but how did you spend?
Speaker 1:like how, what happened? From there did he just go home and you just were like, hey, can I take your order at the cafe?
Speaker 2:pretty much he fucked off and I like I felt like I had a responsibility to stay at the cafe. I was, I was mortified, like I said, I was in shock. I kind of just did my day actually. Now I think about it and this is an important thing, the minute that I got in the car and I kind of chased her and then went no, no, I've got to go back, I actually rang. So you know how I said we had some close friends that were helping me with a cafe, like they were his friends before I met them and that's fair enough, but I had become really close with both of them.
Speaker 2:I really loved the wife and the. I knew the husband would be awake because he owned a cafe as well, and I rang him hysterical crying, and I said him hysterical crying, and I said you are fucking not gonna believe what just happened. And he was like, oh my god, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry, but he didn't say anything like who was it? Um, how did it happen? He was just like I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry that that you've heard that like so.
Speaker 2:To me it was like an unknown known yeah so and I look back at that now and I I often think, did he actually know? And it was just a boy's secret?
Speaker 2:kind of thing um, but yeah, moving on, on that day, he just went, he just fucked off and went to work and I just went home in shock, yeah, and that was the end of my day. I carried on for the next couple of days. He did not bother to contact me. Oh, like, how does that happen? This went for three days and I actually took down her number plate and I started to try and investigate and you know, it became quite a cycle. And then I rang him and I said, look, we need to sort this out. You know, I need. I find out who's this woman. And he kept saying I don't know, I don't know. All I know is her name was Miss K and that's it. And I said, well, I've got her number plate. You find out who the fuck she is. Yeah, yellow sticky note that I'd written the number plate on, cause I had it in my head and then I wrote it down.
Speaker 2:I gave it to him and he just kept denying oh, I couldn't find her, I have no way of finding out. Did you do your own little bit of research? I tried, but yeah, couldn't, couldn't, yeah, couldn't find out who it actually was. That kind of left us in a stalemate. The unfortunate thing was because I'd been in two previous broken marriages. I was highly embarrassed.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And I didn't want to leave another relationship.
Speaker 1:And I so distinctly recall this conversation that you and I had had. I was on my way to work and you had rang me to tell me the situation and we we had a chat about this kind of relationship dynamic that happens. It's a bit of a power play, in the sense of you are being financially held to someone that's paying for your lifestyle that you've so desperately wanted for for such a long time and the worst thing was it was my son's 21st a couple of days later, maybe a week later or so, and it would be odd for mr b to not be there, absolutely absolutely so.
Speaker 2:The decision that I had to make was so I was gutted and I could hardly talk to people about it. I had told my mate, his mate. You know that was the first phone call. I told you yeah, and I don't know. Oh, I told my dad, yeah, and he was just like you're fucking joking.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:He was. He was disgusted, but every time I talked about it I cried because I loved this guy and I was engaged and I thought this is our future. And the choice was if everybody asked me, where is he, where is he, where is he At the 21st? I would just start crying and I didn't want to ruin my son's 21st. He had messaged me and said what do you want me to do? And I said you'll fucking come.
Speaker 2:I said, but you don't speak to me, you don't speak to my family. You stand there, you have a few fucking drinks and you make out that everything's fine. I said but don't fucking come near me. And of course people noticed they didn't say anything. We did the speech and the interesting thing was my son didn't know and he thanked him to be for making me so happy, making us as a family so happy, sharing our lives together. And I just remember thinking, oh, far out, yeah, this is gonna be cooked when it all goes down, when the pot starts to boil so we get through my son's 21st and he's begging for forgiveness.
Speaker 2:He wants to take me out to dinner to one of our regular restaurants. I agree to go because I'm thinking tell me, tell me who this chick is.
Speaker 2:Tell me why she was there. Tell me where we're headed in our relationship. What is going on? Yeah, tell me where we're headed in our relationship. What is going on? Yeah, so we go to a restaurant and we sit down and we order a drink and he goes to hold my hand and I'm still a bit creeped out by this at this point in time but in his hand he's got a gift and I open up my hand and it's a set of car keys another car.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, oh yeah it's a car for the little one, because she's turning 16, that's right I forgot that he bought her a car yes. So I was like, oh god, what do I do now? Cause I actually I went into that 40%, I'd stay with him, 60%, I'm going. Yeah, as much as it's embarrassing, I'm heartbroken. My life is going to change back to a broke ass, single fucking mom again. Yeah, shit happens. That's what I'm going to do, yeah.
Speaker 2:You know, even you know more than than 60. I'm just like I. I'm not interested in you anymore. You've done it enough, yeah, and in my hand, like here I am I. What's happened? Again, I've been bought.
Speaker 1:yeah, and I think it's like a this weird kind of stark reminder of you are just a broke single mom at the end of the day, and that's devastating to say but I think he knows that and he's willing to yeah, to bet on that Yep Cause all my money at this time is in the cafe.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like, and I'm just, I'm making a great wage. Yes, that's fine, but I am, I'm, I'm in that cafe, you know, we don't have any uh property or anything together.
Speaker 1:That's just who we are and yeah, I've been bought once again and also, I guess, the fact that my siblings still don't know what's going on. So my sister getting a new car isn't actually that unusual to her what happens from there yeah.
Speaker 2:So from there, like she thinks it's all really cool, she's really excited and happy mind you, I am seething with jealousy so I.
Speaker 2:It's interesting because I decide to stay with him and I tell him we have to start living a normal life. Okay, I want to buy the house. I want to live together. I want to none of this. You live there, you live here. Yeah, bullshit, we are moving in together. Stop this fucking, as I would say, stick in your dick wherever you find a hole and stay with me, and that's it. We're gonna have a normal life together. You know, you're 50 something. I'm getting older. We found each other. We know we can make this work yeah right.
Speaker 2:So I kind of put my foot down and he's like yep, yep, yep, no worries. He then buys this run-down old house in south melbourne and it needs to be renovated. But that's no drama, it's in his name, okay? I am really struggling with the relationship in terms of do I trust him? And the unfortunate thing is the answer was given to me as much as I was going to stay in the relationship and try and make it work. One night, one morning sorry, he'd gone to work and I know he had two phones. He had a personal phone and a work phone, and I understand that because that's what I have now. But I heard a phone go off in a cupboard and I was like what? So I go and investigate. I find a third phone, yeah, and I start going through it and there's stuff on there that you don't even I'm not going to discuss, but let's just say that you know, dot Steve was one of many Dot Steves.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So that kind of made my decision to sell the cafe. Have the money to myself and make an informed decision, not around money.
Speaker 1:And did Mr B know that you had found the third phone? No did he know that you were selling the cafe?
Speaker 2:yes, yes. So I told him that I was going to sell the cafe.
Speaker 2:It was too much for me, it was too much hard work, but essentially I had actually relied on him a lot because he did so much for me in that cafe and his friends and, and you know, if a fridge broke down or something happened, he was, like I said, very generous with his time and he would come and help, but I felt like I continued to make decisions on staying in the relationship based around money instead of based around true, genuine like.
Speaker 1:I loved him, but I don't think he loved me, me.
Speaker 2:I think there were times where he did yeah, but I don't, I don't really think he was emotionally available, you know yeah looking back, and so I really wanted to make a decision for myself and my children, with my own money in the bank and with my head. With a bit of heart, yeah, but not the way that it was.
Speaker 1:I was continually being bored yeah, because at this point in your relationship it's been like maybe seven years. At this stage, yes, yes, it is.
Speaker 2:It's seven years of up and down, up and down turmoil. Am I in, am I out? Am I in, am I out? Yeah, and you know I. There was so many good qualities that I really liked about him. He's such a gentleman great shoes, yeah, bald head I love that. And yeah, there were really some good things. But you know, being monogamous for me is important and that was not happening for us. So I had to, as I said, make the right decision. So I go ahead and I sell the cafe, got the money in the bank, no drama. I say to him you know, so we stay together. And over the next nine months, I want to buy into the house so that the house is both ours. I want to put my money in yeah, you know, so that we are partners. Yeah, in this property. He's like yep, no worries, but I didn't have a full 50 of what he'd paid yeah so it wasn't going to be fair.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and he was also paying for the renovation and you know he was putting a lot, a lot more than me. So he suggested we go tenants in common. So that means I can put in a percentage and I only ever own that percent. I don't own any more. So that and I find that that was fair and reasonable and I understand that no drama for me.
Speaker 2:So I said, yep, that's cool. So I do that. Put the money into the house. We look at the renovations and things are sort of moving forward, but very slowly. He's got some drawings done, but those nine months became an incredibly toxic time in my life, absolutely. I became crazy.
Speaker 1:I don't necessarily think you became crazy. I think that you were gaslit into believing that you were crazy yes, perhaps I, but I became hell-bent on searching for clear evidence because remember, this is a man who still denied, yeah, that he knew this woman who'd slept in our bed. And the relationship with someone that he considered to just be a friend of 30 years, that you had never met the entirety of your relationship until your engagement party, when she got a last minute invite.
Speaker 2:And the dot.
Speaker 1:Steve and dot.
Speaker 2:Steve and the other little miss who was living in the house.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:The family home before he swapped houses. So I and you know he didn't know that I'd found that phone. So every now and then I would check it and it was just giving me more and more evidence. Yeah, that I, I think I turned him into hating me. Yeah, because I think that's what I wanted. I wanted him to hate me so that he would break it off with me or I. Just I just didn't know where I was.
Speaker 2:He wanted the ring back. You know, the ring was massive, it was a fucking rock and it was stunning. He had said to me he was going to repropose, to start anew and he wanted the ring back. So he got the ring back. He then asked me to sign a receipt to say that he'd sold me the car that he bought the younger daughter, you know, and then the tenants in common. So he was kind of setting things up. He knew what he was doing and I had said to him you know it was about eight months later and I said, can we go on a holiday? Just you and I? We want to try and repair the relationship and, mind you, you know, as I said, we'd never been on a holiday. We had planned and unfortunately that hadn't worked out. We had a little bit of credit so we did end up going to new zealand for a couple of days, but you know 6 am. He's out of bed downstairs on the phone like it was much of a holiday no who are you on the phone to, mate?
Speaker 2:it's, it's easter, your business is closed. Who the fuck you on the phone to at 6 am? So we get back and you know, as I said, I've sold the cafe. I put the money into the house in South Melbourne. I'm working a little part-time teaching job and after nine months of pain and begging him to put my mind at ease, he just continued to refuse and, like I said, I went crazy looking for shit yeah, anything that I could find. He had a new friend come into his life. That, I think, was our downfall as well. You know when the dynamics change and this person is swaying you, your partner, away from you and you know it and you feel it and you see it.
Speaker 2:That happened as well. So in the end I I had lost my job, my part-time job, believe it or not. I had no money whatsoever. All my money was tied up in the house in South Melbourne. I still had the apartment and I kind of moved back. I was in there permanently. I wasn't really going to stay at his house at that time. I was just going through the motions and the relationship became so toxic and, as I said, I tried to. I think I tried to make him hate me. He gaslit me into believing I was going crazy, you know, getting me a therapist, ringing the therapist, telling the therapist what was wrong with me. And she was like I'm gonna run, sister, run. He is, he is full-blown, you need to run away, like I mean they can't. He is, he is full-blown, you need to run away like I mean they can't he.
Speaker 2:He even made an appointment with her before I got in there and you're not meant to do that, yeah but he did that behind my back and she kind of realized when he dropped me off sort of thing, and he was so fucking proud of himself. I remember him picking me up saying oh no, now did she explain to you that? You know, because I'm such a great person I always find myself in trouble and I'm the one that gets the blame for things. And in my mind I'm like mate, she was telling me to run, but I didn't say anything obviously the thing is, I was so incredibly unhappy.
Speaker 2:I just rang him one day and I said we need to talk. And I went around there and I said unfortunately, this is not working for me. If you can't prove to me that I'm the one, then you know by telling me who this person is, by by being honest, because we can get through it. If you've been having an affair, I will forgive you. I promise I'll forgive you If you tell me what led you to this. What can I do to fix this so that this doesn't happen again? And he said I swear to you I don't know who she was. And I said well, I'm sorry, but this is the end. Yeah, and I left him and I had seven dollars and 21 cents in my bank account. Thanks for listening to this episode of raising rich. If any of today's episode has resonated with you, we'd love for you to share it with another mama.
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